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ok so it's been a while lol. But I've been writing regularly on my facebook account instead of here for some reason. So here are some of the "notes" I've written there.Wannabes
Dec 22 @ 5:17pm
So I understand that everyone goes through this period of 'finding themselves', but what I don't understand is why at the end of it they find 'someone else'? I don't mean a literal someone else, I mean they end up finding someone who is the complete opposite of themselves. Sure we all wish we could be a certain way: more outgoing, smarter, prettier, cooler, skinnier, bigger (muscular-wise), more articulate/eloquent, taller/shorter etc etc! The list goes on and on; as human beings we have insatiable appetites for 'improvement'. What we really need to come to terms with is the fact that we can't change who we are on the inside; we can try to change how we appear and how we act to those around us, but usually the truth of who we really are comes trickling through the gaps. I'm not saying that quiet people should stick to the shadows, because sometimes the quietest of people can be the most effective leaders. But what I am saying is that if you are quiet/loud then don't pretend not to be. Being either introverted/extraverted isn't a bad thing. I know I know, the grass is always greener on the other side, trust me, I KNOW, but the best thing you can do for yourself is ACCEPT who you are. Nothing is more attractive then someone who is confident about who they TRULY are. By pretending your someone you're not you're simply making a fool of yourself. You might get new friends, or a new boyfriend/girlfriend, but it's not real, because the friendship/relationship is based on something fake. Personally, the temporary high isn't worth it; why settle for temporary when I can have a lifetime. If you're looking for "True Love" "True friendships" try being true to yourself first. Sure you might stumble along the way; some people might hurt you, but changing who you are isn't the solution. The solution is waiting for the right relationships to come along, the one that accepts you for who you are, idiosyncrasies and all.
I know I'm not really saying anything that hasn't already been said, but it just bugs me. I've come to terms with the fact that I'm loud, sometimes obnoxious, and snobby (some ppl out there will get it haha). I may not be the same person I was back in high school, but at the centre of it all I'm still me, just less self-conscious about it; I broke out of my shell, I didn't jump into an entirely different one. I'm not going to change who I am because you might not like it, just as I wouldn't expect you to change who you are if I don't like it.
If you got through this entire rant, or whatever it is, then congratulations that's quite a feat and thanks for taking the time.
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